7 Top Tips To Double Your Instagram Story Views In A Matter Of Days

Recently I’ve been obsessing over Instagram stories. I couldn’t understand why my follower count, likes and post reach kept increasing, yet my Instagram story views remained the same. So I decided to do what anyone with an undergrad degree and post grad in law would do -I turned to google. But the results were disappointing. All the articles I came across were just clickbait and the tips were mostly pretty basic.

So then I did what only someone with a pathological obsession would do -I started studying. I observed, took notes and applied.  And since applying these techniques, my Instagram story views have doubled in reach in a matter of days.

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The Instagram story ‘grab, hold, react’ technique

Instagram’s algorithm may be a bit of a mystery, but one thing’s for sure: high engagement equals more visibility. Luckily, if there’s anything that I have learned from endless hours in front of Netflix, it’s that in every mystery the clues will be right in front of you. And Instagram story insights give us lots of them.

  • Actions:
    • Replies
    • Sticker taps (the users you tag)
    • Link clicks (swipe ups)
  • Back taps
  • Forward taps
  • Away swipes
  • Exits

In all probability, the more replies, link clicks and taps and the fewer forward taps, away swipes and exits, the higher the chance of your content being seen. Not rocket science. This means you need to somehow grab and hold people’s attention with your Instagram story and then cause them to react to it. I call it the ‘grab, hold, react’ technique. Not an easy task though! In a world saturated with media content, it’s becoming increasingly hard to get your Instagram story seen.

1. The basics (grab, hold, react)

I’m going to assume that you already know the basics. But if you don’t here is a quick list.

  • Geotags (grab). Always geo tag to maximise views;
  • Hashtags (grab)
    • Bonus tip: you can hide your hashtags by pinching them so that they become virtually invisible. I once used the hashtag “gaypride2017” at the London gay pride and got 1.5k views just from that. To optimise your chances, use all 10 available hashtags.
  • Tags (react). When you tag someone chances are people will want to know who they are and click on them.
    • Bonus tip: tag new people. My friend Shelley used to get so many taps at the beginning, but now that everyone knows who she is, the number of taps has gone down. Whenever I tag a new person they get a lot more taps;
  • GIFS (grab, hold). I love gifs. a) They are just awesome and fun and you can get super creative with them, and b) they turn a photo into a video. And videos are more likely to end up on the geotag and hashtag stories. Bingo!
  • Post frequently (grab). Instagram stories are chronological, so the more you post to your stories, the more chances of getting your story to the top
    • Bonus tip: post regularly throughout the day rather than all at once;
  • Quality content (hold, react). Don’t post just anything. Your insta stories need to either have a purpose or look aesthetically pleasing.

2. Reccomendations (react)

People love to share their views on things. Think about when you’re telling someone a story about yourself and the recipient starts talking about something similar that happened to them. It’s no wonder social media is so popular -sharing is at the core of our species

E.g. “Does anyone have any good recommendations for a new Netflix series?”

3. Secrets (grab, hold, react)

Who doesn’t love a secret? No one can resist a click bait even when we know it’s just clickbait. People are naturally curious. And curiosity is a powerful tool in the ‘grab, hold, react’ formula.

E.g. “23 Pictures That Prove Glasses Make Guys Look Obscenely Hot

I mean GOLD! I dare you not to click. Another great example was Sophie Milner, Millie Cotton and Chloe Plumstead’s recent podcast about how much they earned through blogging. Genius! Who wouldn’t want to know?! The only “downside” is that you must be willing to share your secrets. At the end of the day, you want people to trust that they will get what they were promised if you want them to keep coming back.

Here, is what you should not do if you want to write a good title.

4. Instagram story polls (react)

Instagram story polls are great because they force people to interact with you, thus provoking an instinctive ‘reaction’. But make sure you make the poll as easy as possible.

Do

This or that?

E.g. “Do you prefer the blue dress or the yellow dress?”

Don’t

Ask sensitive questions.

E.g. “Do I look good in this?”

Some people will think you do. However, others might not  and will therefore just skip the story. Anyone who says no is just socially inept. But the crucial point here is that you’re missing out on a great opportunity for engagement by asking sensitive questions.

5. Time lapse videos (grab, hold)

I love watching time lapse videos. Luke Catleugh is a master at this. He places his phone directly adjacent to him and records simple tasks in time lapse. You will usually see him either cooking, sipping on a coffee, or studying. It’s like playing sims. He even makes packing a suitcase captivating! Which is both ‘grab’ and ‘hold’ in the ‘grab, hold, react’ formula.

6. Celebrating  your success (react)

Hearing about other people’s success is always inspiring, particularly when it’s done in a humble way. And when you share your success with others, people will want to celebrate with you (reaction).

Jamie Cullen posted on his insta stories about the progress he’s achieving in the gym. I DMd him to congratulate him, and I’m guessing many others did too. If he’d only posted a mirror selfie in the gym, he would probably have received half the engagement.

7. Bloggermail (grab, hold, react)

Bloggermail insta stories. I’m not 100% sure on this -some people love them and others hate them (which is a potential for swipe aways). I personally don’t watch them often. However, it is a known fact that haul videos are one of the most popular videos on youtube so I must be part of the exception. Also, most bloggers tend to do them and there is always meaning in numbers.

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I hope you found my tips useful. Please do let me know how you get on -I would love to hear what your experience was. And of course, if you have more tips that you’d like to share, I would love to learn all about them!

V.

Top: Asos

Sunglasses: Asos

Bag: Aspinal of London

Mother’s Day Afternoon Tea at Thomas Burberry’s Cafe

Yesterday I was invited to try out Burberry’s special Mother’s Day afternoon tea. The Burberry cafe is hidden inside Burberry’s flagship store on Regent Street in London. Away from the hustle and bustle of the city, it was great to enjoy a quite moment in the cafe before heading out for some Saturday sping.

If you’re looking for some last minute Mother’s Day inspiration, hopefully this post will help you. Afternoon tea is always a lovely way of showing your mother just how special she is to you.

The interior

The interior of the Burberry cafe is elegant and sophisticated. Tall ceilings and windows, white table cloths and art nouveau tiled floors. It’s therefore the perfect place for a Mother’s Day afternoon tea, and a great place to create new memories.

The abundance of natural lighting also makes it the perfect place to take some cute family photos. You will already know from my Paris trip post that gorgeous interiors are a number one priority for me.

Mother’s Day afternoon tea

The afternoon tea at Thomas’ cafe is traditional -crumpets, scones or tea cakes, finger sandwiches and petit fours. There is also the option of adding Nightingale wine if you’re feeling like a little English bubbly.

I particularly enjoyed the clotted cream and Thomas’ jam scones. Speaking of which -do you say scone or scon? And do you prefer your scones with jam and clotted cream, or with clotted cream and jam? Please leave a comment below. This has already caused a bit of a storm on my Instagram lol.

Mother's Day afternoon tea at Burberry

Mother's Day afternoon tea at Burberry

Mother's Day afternoon tea at Burberry

Mother's Day afternoon tea at Burberry

Mother's Day afternoon tea at Burberry

Mother's Day afternoon tea at Burberry

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Mother's Day afternoon tea at Burberry Unfortunately I was not able to treat my mummy to Mother’s Day afternoon tea this year. However, this is definitely somewhere I would love to take her to on her next visit to London. Thomas’ cafe is also open for lunch and dinner, with a selection of traditional British foods.

What are your plans for mothers’ day?

V x

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Wearing:

Burberry trench coat

Topshop belt

Tudor Farmhouse

Wow! It’s been a while guys. What can I say -I am SO sorry and I missed you!

So much has happened since my last post Forest of Dean Magic about my trip with Skirmy and Ollie. The Forest of Dean is a truly magical place. Many people associate it with Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings. But magic is not the only thing that attracts visitors to the forest. I Still need to tell you all about my visit to Tudor Farmhouse.

Tudor Farmhouse

On our first evening, we were invited to experience a 6 course dining experience at Tudor Farmhouse. Walking down the drive towards the hotel was like stepping into a winter wonderland. Inside, the exposed wooden beams and roaring fireplace were second only to the delicious cocktails which we were served on arrival.

Stay

Though we did not stay overnight, the boys and I were really curious to take a tour of the hotel and suites. This independently owned business has the look and feel of a high end boutique hotel. Every room is perfectly decorated and each bathroom has deep, luxurious tubs. Rustic meets modern commodity in a sophisticated and elegant manner.

Dining 

After our tour, our host showed us to a table in small candle-lit dining room. Each course of the meal was paired with matching wines from all parts of the world. Our sommelier did a great job of explaining the different flavours and textures of the wines. Each flight married beautifully with every single course.

I need you to be a little open-minded now. I’m about to explain why my favourite course was the roasted carrot but I forgot to take a picture of it (face palm moment). So I need you to use your imagination. You will no doubt remember growing up to your parents’ persistent requests that you eat your vegetables. Personally, I’ve never had that -my parents would put me in front of a salad and not really care if I moaned that I didn’t like it. Eventually, I learned to love any kind of food. However, I know this was a common issue in most families, so let’s resume my story.

Vegetables are usually served on the side of “something” -that something usually being some kind of superstar meat. They are never the main event but merely the supporting act. However, the chef at Tudor Farm House did an excellent job of turning that paradigm on its head -he boldly removed any distractions from our plates and forced us to pay attention to the Carrot. The result was unexpected. It was the best carrot I have ever tasted in my life, maybe even the best vegetable. I would highly recommend trying it.

The rest of the meal was just as impressive as it’s surprising beginning. Here are a few mouth-watering shots for your to enjoy. Hopefully, you’ve already eaten! Haha

We enjoyed our evening and surroundings at Tudor Farm House so much that the following morning we decided to return to the hotel to take pictures in the daylight. The staff were so friendly and accommodating. We will definitely be back!

 

 

 

Forest of Dean Magic: Weekend Stay at Speech House Hotel.

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There’s something to be said about being surrounded by history –it’s submersive. Growing up, I always had this burning desire to be somebody else. Which was why books the likes of ‘Narnia’ and ‘His Dark Materials’ appealed to me so much –they allowed me to open portals to different worlds, to be a different version of myself.

Now that I am older and (debatably) wiser, I don’t get to travel to different worlds very often. But for two nights in October, I was able to do just that.

Rooted in the heart of the Forest of Dean, Speech House Hotel is a magical place imbued with history. It was originally built as King Charles II’s hunting lodge in the late 1600’s but then later became a Verderers’ court –a court for the protection of vert and venison. I don’t really know why, but being surrounded by so much history awakens my imagination. And I don’t think I’m the only one. Take fantasy novels, for example –they’re mostly set in ancient lands where technology and stainless steel have not yet had a chance to strip the world bare. Don’t get me wrong, I love technology. But you have to admit, it is the antithesis to magic.

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On our first morning at Speech House, sat in the Verderers’ court having breakfast by the snap and pop of the open fire, I realised I had done it: I had opened a portal. Suddenly, I found myself hoping that Dumbledore would make an appearance at breakfast and steal my toast, or that the naked lady in the oil painting above our heads would start sneezing into her bedsheets (or onto the boys’ black puddings!). The opportunities were endless. I carried on nibbling at the corner of my hash brown, taking in the warmth from the fire -London, a faraway universe.

My room at Speech House –which, in my head, I secretly referred to as “my chambers”-, was warm and cosy. It is not every day that one needs a stool to clamber onto their four-poster bed –yet, somehow, I felt instantly at home in this grandiose environment. Walking round in my dressing gown, I felt a true sense of belonging: had I finally made it into Slytherin?

Speech House Hotel Forest of Dean

Speech House Hotel Forest of Dean

The tall windows in my bedroom looked onto thick, ancient woodland. Some say it was the Forest of Dean that inspired JRR Tolkien’s ‘Lord of the Rings’ –I can see why. There is something very wild about the Forest of Dean –an almost eerie atmosphere. The vegetation is so old and luscious that one can imagine a very great deal happened in that forest. Maybe just a few hunting episodes, or who knows? Maybe something else -if only trees could talk!

On the first day, being the cute blogger family that we are, the boys and I coordinated outfits. After walking for a while in the Forest, we found a cool spot to take some group pictures. Tripod at the ready -and snap! The result? Well, I was hoping for Tatler meets ‘The Hobbit’, but someone recently commented saying that we look like the cast of Riverdale. I’ll take that.

Our evenings at the Hotel were spent mostly in Skirmy’s living room (or, as I liked to refer to it, the common room) playing wizard’s chess -just kidding! I apologise for all the Harry Potter references. This is what historic homes do to me! Or was I being influenced by Ollie’s hair colour? Maybe a combination of the two.

Leaving this enchanted place behind on the last day was difficult, but at least now I know that it is still possible to relive a little magic, even in your mid-twenties –all you need is a beautiful historic hotel and an ancient forest.

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Book your stay at Speech House Hotel here.

WEARING:

Outfit number one: 

Jacket: Jack Wills

Jeans: H&M

Outfit number two:

Jacket: Next (shop here)

Trousers: Next (shop here)

Boots: Next (shop here)

Hat: Newlook (shop here)

Scarf: Enrico Coveri

 

Transitional Clothing: Topshop Teddy Coat.

In the words of Albus Dumbledore: “a change of decoration is in order!”. Summer is dead. It’s time for transitional clothing.

Hello, autumn. Your days may be short and cold, but at least you allow me to layer, layer, layer. I mean, who doesn’t like to be wrapped up in what is basically the closest thing there is to your duvet? The teddy coat is the fashion staple of the season.

Topshop Teddy Coat

file-1The fashion world is going through an existential paradigm shift -it is moving away from show pieces for faceless models and closer to real clothes for real people. Practicality is taking over the runways -we saw a flavour of it in Victoria Beckham’s show in NY last week. The truth is: autumns in the UK are cold, and so we need to wrap up warm! This topshop teddy coat is warm, cosy and just god damn perfect! I fell in love with it as soon as I saw it.

For this look, I paired my topshop teddy coat with this gorgeous topshop dress in classic transitional style: bare legs for breeze and teddy coat for warmth and comfort. Floral dresses have made a real come back this season and I am totally on board with this trend. Feminine and romantic with a touch of practicality: easier to disguise those relish stains from those winter pub lunches than if wearing only one colour. And if you’re anything like me, that will come in handy. Trust.

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And of course, let’s not ignore these topshop boots. I mean…hard to ignore, really. You hardly go unobserved walking around London in these bad boys. And with LFW round the corner, I sure know these trusty topshop boots will be my friends. They make me feel like a combo of Carrie Bradshore and Samantha. Explosive, not just transitional.

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topshop teddy coatI want to thank my friend Skirmy from Mr. Salt and Pepper blog for taking these incredible photos. We had a little staycation in London together last weekend and, though I may have woken him up at 7:30am on Sunday morning, we had some really fun times going round London on our boris bikes. Yes -I was on a boris bike with my topshop teddy coat, floral dress and red boots. It felt very “An education” like.

V x

WEARING:

Teddy Coat: Topshop

Floral Dress: Topshop

Red Boots: Topshop

Belt: Topshop

Bag: Marc Jacobs

London Escapes: A Day at Ham Polo

Samuel Johnson once said that when a man is tired of London, he is tired of life. Well, Sam -try living in London now!

We all enjoy its perks -the constant parties, 24h tubes, trendy pop-ups and restaurants. But don’t you sometimes just crave a bit of peace and quiet? A bit of country life? Most Londoners don’t know that they can enjoy country living without even leaving London. Of course, the royal parks offer much by way of greenery -but it’s the country pursuits that I miss the most. A long walk (in the direction of an old country pub), wild swimming, a bit of polo, maybe? Not as exclusive as one might think.

Richmond’s very own Ham Polo Club is a well-established institution. It’s one of the oldest polo clubs in the country and the last surviving polo club in London. The club is very welcoming and allows non-members to attend the polo matches every week in the summer by paying a very small entry fee of £5 -totally worth the price for what it offers! You can pay for tickets at the gates and even bring your own picnic (and booze!).

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Last weekend, I visited the club with a friend. We decided we wanted to take some photos with the ponies so, between matches, we walked around the stables looking for inspiration. The vibe at the club is so chilled that not one person told us off for cuddling the ponies and taking pictures with them. Of course, being the animal lover that I am, I made a new friend. It’s crazy how you can build such a strong bond with an animal in such little amount of time -it would never happen between humans (not in Britain, anyway lol). I will be back soon my friend!

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This is not a sponsored post, by the way -just me wanting to share my secrets with you!

All the best,

V x

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WEARING

Jumpsuit: ASOS

Jumper: Similar here

Sliders: Kurt Geiger

Bag: ASOS

Watch: CLUSE

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PHOTOGRAPHY @byollieb 

How to Style a Blazer: the Tailoring Trend

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Some people feel comfortable in pyjamas, I feel comfortable in a blazer. I’m not sure I would sleep in a blazer, but I might try it and let you know how I get on.

Fashion reflects the times we live in, said Coco Chanel. This year, we’ve seen Exeter school boys in skirts, and frilly blouses at men’s fashion week. So the fashion world is following suit and going gender-free!

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As women are becoming more and more powerful (see, for example, our Prime Minister, and our newly appointed president of the Supreme Court, Lady Justice Hale), suits and blazers have abandoned solitary confinement to join the rest of the world. Mark my words -come September, blazers, pronounced shoulders, and double breasted cuts will be all over your Instagram feed.

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And so they should! Blazers are so versatile -they can be formal, elegant, edgy and casual, all at once, depending on how you style them. If I am ever stuck on outfit ideas (happens a lot), I will rock up in a blazer. It makes me feel powerful and feminine -perfect for the times we live in. Today’s women are fiercely independent go-getters: they have the weight of the world on their shoulders, so big padding is necessary!

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Here, I added a delicate crushed velvet cami, paired with relaxed straight leg jeans for an easy day time look. I added a black belt and black faux leather mules to finish the look off. The mules are from primark -I wish I could link them below cause they were seriously the best buy of the summer (shoe-wise).

A slogan tee and pointy kitten heel would have also looked pretty cool. Maybe I can save that look for another blogpost -I don’t think the blazer trend will go anywhere anytime soon!

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WEARING:

Blazer: Austin Reed (similar here)

Cami: H&M

Jeans: Newlook (similar here)

Mules: Primark (similar here)

Backpack: Newlook (similar here)

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(Photography by the extremely talented @basicallylittlebee)

Summer ’17 Fashion Trend: Winter Boots and Summer Dresses

Get those winter boots back out, girls, cause this summer is all about the winter boot et summer dress combo!

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To add extra mileage to your summer dress, try pairing it with some sturdy leather knee high winter boots -it honestly transforms a kooky frock into an edgy high fash piece.

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You may be thinking that winter boots are not exactly the most comfortable of items to wear on a summer’s day -right you are, Harry! But since when was high fash about comfort?

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Plus, you can always count on some good old British summer showers -in which case you will be glad to have taken out those winter boots from the back end of your wardrobe!

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WEARING

Summer dress: Boohoo

Winter Boots: Daisy Street

My 25th Birthday Weekend: Guide to the Most Elegant Restaurants and Bars in Paris

I had my first “fear of old age” dream the other night. In the dream I had a very wrinkly forehead, which I kept trying to iron out. I should probably invest in some botox.

Turning 25 has made me think about what my younger self thought being 25 would be all about. Basically, this super hot, super successful, super human, who is a mature adult, but still young enough to be cool -talk about pressure!

Outfit no. one 

Whilst I am grateful for what life has given me so far, I can’t help but think that 9 year old me would probably turn her nose up at 25 year old me.

Anyway, whilst turning 25 may have been a little stressful in some ways, in other ways, it was actually pretty amazing. If you follow me on IG, you will already have seen -or, rather, been spammed with- pictures of my weekend in Paris last month.

So what better way to celebrate adulthood, than by sharing my wisdom with you on *where to go whilst in Paris* -just like a respectable adult would?

Where to stay 

St Germain

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We stayed in a beautiful studio apartment on the 4th floor of an old building on Rue de Buci, St Germain -so far, so French. Both the apartment and the location were absolutely spot on, but if there were anything I would perhaps do differently this time round, it would probably be checking if the building has a *LIFT* -but no biggie. Lesson learned! Stairs are fetch.

Outfit no. two

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Now, Rue de Buci was an excellent choice and I would love to be able to claim that it was all part of my master plan. Alas, I have to admit, it happened rather accidentally.

 

Anyway, if you enjoy french wine shops, cute little cafes and bars and a lively yet not too rowdy street (told you this was a responsible adult review), I would definitely recommend staying here.

Where to eat 

Brasserie Vagenade 

Dinner at Brasserie Vagenade on the first night was absolutely divine. The restaurant was just a stone’s throw from our apartment -very convenient considering my choice of shoes.

Outfit no. three

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The food at BV was superb, the staff very friendly. I’d been craving escargot for some time, so I had to give in -when in Rome, after all. But the atmosphere was what topped it all off for me: belle époque interiors, mirrors on every wall and the lively chatter of a very french clientele -it had that je ne sais quoi that I think Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald would have loved.

Ralph

As in, actual Ralph Lauren’s restaurant!

Honestly, when I walked through the elegant doors of this restaurant, I felt like I had landed in the 1920s  -just like in Woody Allen’s ‘Midnight in Paris’.

From the jazz music, to the pictures of horses the walls, to the imposing fireplace in the middle of the room -everything about this restaurant was perfection. Even the butter! I mean, Ralph Lauren butter is gotta be worth a visit -right?

Bars 

Cafe Marly

Outfit no. four

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Café Marly is just view goals all over. It may be a little pricey, but considering the terrace gives you front row seats to the glass pyramid, it is totally worth it.

The 18th century rococo gallery has an elegant and contemporary feel, and the corridor that runs through the tables is practically a catwalk for beautiful waiters -I told you this cafe was all about the views.

 

Cafes 

Cafe de Flore

An old classic and a little cliche -I am aware of that. But I had to pay a visit to Café de Flore, just to see what all the buzz is about.

Lovely crockery and perfectly positioned people-watching tables, but a little touristy and, quite frankly, probably like a million other cafes in the area. Good, but not the one.

Brunch

OFF Paris Sienne

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Basically, the perfect brunch spot in Paris -a floating hotel on the river Sienne with a beautiful outdoor pool. I mean -does it get any more instagrammable than this?

Outfit no. five

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Brunch was the usual all you can eat format, which is perfect if, like me, you like endless girly chats in front of endless cappuccinos.

Shame the weather wasn’t quite as we had hoped, but nothing can stop a girl from wearing gold mules.

WEARING

Outfit no. one

Top: Zara

Jeans: Newlook

Shoes: Zara

Outfit no. two

Pyjamas: Primark

Outfit no. three

Blazer: Zara

Shoes: Zara

Outfit no. four

Coat: H&M

T-shirt: Topshop

Outfit no. five

Jumper: New Look

Skirt: Primark

Mules: Primark

 

 

Conquering fear: Tips for Bloggers Starting Out

It may not be obvious from these pictures, but there were actually a lot of people on that beach that day, all wrapped up warm in their winter coats. It was freezing and a few people were staring, but I did not actually care.

There is something truly powerful in not giving a damn. It makes one feel so alive and free! Fear is one of the main reasons for our insecurities and anxieties. Remove fear, and you’re pretty much as free as one can be! Look at children: they’re always running around naked without a care in the world. Why? Because they’re not scared of judgment, which makes them free, careless and happy.

Whenever something scares me I ask myself one simple question: what’s the worst that can happen?

Take this photoshoot as an example. What’s the very worst thing that could have happened? Perhaps if someone started pointing at me laughing and telling all their friends to come and watch this stupid girl dancing around on a freezing beach? Or maybe if someone started shouting at me or body shaming me?

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Does that sound ridiculous to you? Of course! That’s because it would probably never happen. Our brains are very good and conjuring up worsts case scenarios; but the likelihood of one of our worst case scenarios actually coming to life is quite frankly very unlikely -reality almost never beats our pessimistic brains.

IMG_9940But even if that actually had happened, if people had started laughing at me or calling me fugly, what difference would it have made? I still would have my pictures, right? Think of the upside: now I have some nice pictures and something to talk about for my first blog post! That sounds like a win to me.

You can apply this rationale to any kind of situation: public speaking, job interviews, dating, or anything else that might make you uncomfortable. It is a very liberating feeling. And once you’ve done it, you’ll want to do it again -it’s addictive!

Image-4The first time I did a shoot in public (with an iphone and a tripod!) I felt so embarrassed: I thought everyone was looking at me and judging me and laughing. The second time, I cared a bit less. Until eventually now I actually enjoy the attention -I have fun with it! You can all stare, laugh and think whatever you want. Hopefully, you are actually all really nice people and wouldn’t do that, but if you’re not, the joke’s on you (you generic, not you, you)!
What about you (this time you, you)? Have you ever done something you weren’t very comfortable with and found you actually enjoyed doing it?

All the best!

Victoria x

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Wearing: Formby swimsuit by Jackwills (which I’ll probably be wearing a lot this summer as I’m completely obsessed with this pattern!);

Location: Tenby beach, Pembrookshire, South West Wales.